Welcome to Mindful Monday a blogging event that has been created by Colleen over at Silverthreading but for a while is hosted here at “A Spirit of Healing”. Colleen follows her call to tell the fairies stories, so her blog follows other paths.
Therefore, I have stepped in as I believe Mindful Monday is important, and it is important to have it as a weekly feature. Thanks Colleen for letting me be the host for the time being!
Mindful Monday is a blog feature to support each other on our mindful and healthy journeys. It is not a challenge but a community of bloggers who post insightful posts on Mondays which make us think, change and hopefully act too.
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I am looking forward to reading your insights for this week!
One effect that not healed trauma has on you is that unwanted memories come back out of nowhere and it often is difficult to realise that these are memories and not the reality. It looks like Mindfulness and training your brain to stay in the moment helps with realising that these are just memories and not reality. Unwanted memories can be triggered by anything from a faint smell to music you hear or a feeling. You often are not aware of the trigger which makes everything more complicated. And I believe my body carries a lot of those memory triggers especially when it comes to pain. Pain which I constantly have in one form or the other reminds me of the past which can be a trigger. I also told you about my “body work” however; I did not really explain what that means.
My Body Carries Memory Triggers
And I believe my body carries a lot of those memory triggers especially when it comes to pain. Pain which I constantly have in one form or the other reminds me of the past which can be a trigger. Last week I told you about my thoughts on body and trauma. I also told you about my “body work” however; I did not really explain what that means.
My Body Work
My “body work” mainly consists of me applying essential oils in a dilution on my body in the morning and the evening.I have created my own mix one for my hormone balance and my immune system and one for dealing with pain.
Now don’t ask me about dilutions of essential oils because I only know the basics: Do not apply essential oils without a carrier oil. Carrier oils are oils like jojoba, grapeseed or sesame oil in which you put a few drops of essential oil.
What’s the problem?
When I was researching my hormone problems which are probably caused by an early start of menopause and having fibroids, I found a page which said that five drops of oil on an ounce (about 30ml) of carrier oil are ok to use. So far I stick with that and it has not caused me any problems.
However, people and bodies are different and it might be that you do not react well to essential oils in general or to a certain dilution. It is always good to ask the advice of Aromatherapy specialist to find the right way.
My essential oil mixes
I have bought a few 100ml bottles at Woodland Herbs online shop to store my oil mixtures. That means it carries a little more than 3 ounces of oil. Therefore, I put between 15 and 20 drops of essential oils into them.
My “hormone” mix consists of five drops Lavender, five drops Geranium and ten drops of Frankincense. My “pain” mix is five drops Frankincense, five drops Rosemary and ten drops Lavender. The carrier oil I use is Almond oil which I also get from Woodland Herbs.
I have to admit I am experimenting with these mixes. I know that rosemary increases the blood flow in your blood vessels which is good to relax, get rid of toxins and it increases metabolism. Lavender relaxes and so does Frankincense.
Frankincense also has a balancing effect on your hormones while Geranium boosts your immune system. As far as I could find out, all these oils work well together. As all three of them also have a good effect on depression and anxiety I figured it can only be a good thing for me overall.
What do I do?
I oil different parts of my body in the morning and in the evening depending on which symptoms I deal with. Right now I have trouble with constipation probably due to my fibroids. So I oil my belly with the “pain” mix and my lower back every evening but also in the morning as often as possible. Rosemary improves blood flow . Therefore, I assumed it would give my digestive system a boost too.
A week before my period starts I change to use the “hormone” mix for my belly as it keeps period pain at a minimum as well as it has decreased the strength of my period. I also have trouble with my shins and my ankles. It is a constant pain. As Rosemary is often used as a pain relief, I use it on both.
I have assumed that I have trouble experiencing my body in a positive way as it has been violated at a very early age. Touch is difficult for survivors of abuse because of exactly that reason. However, humans can’t be healthy without human touch so we are in a little bit of a vicious circle here. I drew the conclusion that the best way for me to heal this dilemma is to use touch in oiling my body and therefore give it a positive and healing experience of touch.
However, my healing journey in this respect had a wonderful boost long before I tried the above exercise: For some strange reason, I have hardly ever experienced any flashback or fears with my husband touching me. That was a revelation and I assume that the positive experience with my husband has enabled me to develop a better connection to my body in general. I am very grateful for that.
Not long enough
I do not think that I can say yet if it really makes a difference to my healing of the past trauma. However, I feel more relaxed when I keep up with this oiling regime and overall it feels like I am doing something good for myself. That seems to be a strategy that keeps depression, anxiety and flashbacks in check
Mindfulness and body
I believe mindfulness does not only have something to do with your mind and how you perceive your life. I believe mindfulness also encompasses being mindful of your body and giving it what it needs. Often our doctors or psychotherapists only think in boxes and have learned that what helps one should help another as well.
However, we are all individuals and often our instincts tell us exactly what we need to do to heal even though modern medicine either doesn’t believe in it or isn’t aware yet how another healing method works.
In the end, though we have to live our lives with our bodies. So if something helps you why not go with it no matter what the masses think?
Do you believe there is an “inner healer” in you that guides you?