Welcome to Mindful Monday a blogging event that has been created by Colleen over at Silverthreading but for a while is hosted here at “Just Fooling Around With Bee or The Bee Writes”.
Colleen follows her call to tell the fairies stories, so her blog follows other paths.
Therefore, I have stepped in as I believe Mindful Monday is important, and it is important to have it as a weekly feature.
Thanks Colleen for letting me be the host for the time being!
Mindful Monday is a blog feature to support each other on our mindful and healthy journeys. It is not a challenge but a community of bloggers who post insightful posts on Mondays which make us think, change and hopefully act too.
Please feel free to leave your link to your Mindful Monday post in the comments, so the Mindful Monday community has the chance to head over to your place and give and get support.
Today I share with you my first ever “Mindful Monday” post. Sometimes it is good to look back to where you have come from. And the information in the post is still important.
Coleen over at Silver Threading started a wonderful series a few months ago. It is called “Mindful Monday” and invites you to explore Mindfulness and what it means to you. Her posts show different aspects of her life and what Mindfulness brings to it.
I have come across the expression a few times before. For the first time when my last therapist gave me a sheet about it. To be honest I have forgotten everything I read or heard. Right now it just means for me “to be in the moment”, “to follow my intuition” and “letting go of control”.
Wikipedia describes it as follows: “Mindfulness is “the intentional, accepting and non-judgemental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment”, which can be trained by meditational practices derived from Buddhist anapanasati.…”
bemindful.co.uk says: “Mindfulness is a mind-body approach to well-being that can help you change the way you think about experiences and reduce stress and anxiety.”
And franticworld.com writes: “Mindfulness is a very simple form of meditation that was little known in the West until recently. A typical meditation consists of focusing your full attention on your breath as it flows in and out of your body. Focusing on each breath in this way allows you to observe your thoughts as they arise in your mind and, little by little, to let go of struggling with them. You come to realise that thoughts come and go of their own accord; that you are not your thoughts. You can watch as they appear in your mind, seemingly from thin air, and watch again as they disappear, like a soap bubble bursting. You come to the profound understanding that thoughts and feelings (including negative ones) are transient. They come and they go, and ultimately, you have a choice about whether to act on them or not.”
For me mindfulness has an extra importance: One of my ways of dealing with abuse, when I was a child, was to disconnect from my body. In a way, I only existed in my mind and my body had a life of its own. It is hard to describe how that might work and how it feels like but I tried to ignore as much of my body as possible because it was connected with so much pain.
Our breath is described as our connection between body and mind and I believe this is true because when I first started meditating and just concentrated on my breath I started to feel more connected with my body. I was also taught by my therapist to concentrate on my breathing when anxiety and panic attacks hit and most of the time it works pretty well.
Another way of dealing with a life that was chaotic and filled with overpowering emotions was to keep in control. Even though I was not really aware of it, my life needed to have a certain “schedule”, to go a certain way for me to feel secure. Lists of what to do played a big role. Of course, any change in life or work creates a huge amount of anxiety for a person like that. And, of course, life constantly changes so I had a hard time to get my lists or my schedules working.
Since I had the chance to do EMDR therapy a lot has changed. I have become more aware of that disconnection of body and mind as well as my need for control. Not sure why but bit by bit I let this “security-thing” go. I rather “go with the flow” and try not to set myself schedules as to what to do.
Writing about it now makes me realise that I do not really know how it works. I still have plans what I want to achieve and, of course, at work, I have to do things at a certain time and in a certain way. But I allow myself more to be guided by my intuition and if unexpected things come along I am more flexible in incorporating them and less anxious thinking: “I can’t do it!” Because I have proven many times that I can very well do it.
It also happens less and less that I get into “automated mode” which means I did just do the next thing without thinking and prioritising. And I lost connection to my body. Now I am still there, am concentrating on my breathing and stop for a moment. I rather think: “What’s important now?” and follow my intuition.
It somehow works but it looks like I need to explore this a little more to understand what is happening…..there’s a goal for next Monday 🙂
This post takes part in Coleen’s “Mindful Monday“. To find out more about “Mindfulness” head over to her blog and feel free to discover.