Habits of Kindness and Gratitude ~ 11Aug16


I need to give a little recap for all those of you who are not familiar with my latest blog that I have integrated (A Spirit of Healing):

A few weeks ago I read an article about five habits that are supposed to make you a happier person. Now I would try anything that relieves my perpetual depression and PTSD and being a happier person is a good thing, isn’t it?

I wrote a blog post about that on the now here integrated blog which said the following:

For me, Mindfulness is closely related to kindness and gratefulness.

In the times leading up to mental health crisis in my life, I often stop meditating, being grateful for the good things in life and I do even less exercise as usual. Last week I read an interesting article on A Life Of Productivity.com about “5 Habits that lead to more happiness.”

In  nutshell they go like this:

  • Recall three things you’re grateful for. In Achor’s studies, after doing this for 21 days, people’s brains begin to “retain a pattern of scanning the world not for the negative, but for the positive first”, making them much happier.
  • 1015348_43409678Journal one great experience you had. “Journaling about one positive experience you’ve had over the past 24 hours allows your brain to relive it.”
  • Exercise. “Exercise teaches your brain that your behaviour matters”, and it helps you solidify the connection between your actions and their rewards. Exercise is also a great way to focus better.
  • Meditate. Achor: “We find that meditation allows your brain to get over the cultural ADHD that we’ve been creating by trying to do multiple tasks at once. It allows our brains to focus on the task at hand.”
  • Perform a random act of kindness. It doesn’t matter if your act of kindness is buying a coffee for the person after you in line, volunteering, or sending a positive email. Achor gets “people, when they open up their inbox, to write one positive email, praising or thanking someone in their social support network.””

I have shared my experiences with these habits on and off on the other blog, and you can find my entries here.

In one of those posts, I wrote that it feels like these habits have a bigger impact when I write them down either in my diary or as a blog post. Therefore I will keep sharing my experiences with you now and then.

And guess what? Today is “now and then” 🙂

  • Recall three things you’re grateful for. 

I did our groceries today, and I am extremely grateful that we have enough money to feed our family. Yes, we are on a budget, but when I see the people in the favelas of Rio or the inhabitants of war-torn Aleppo in Syria, then I know how incredibly rich we are.

I am grateful for my family and friends on- and offline. I remind myself every day how lucky I am that I can be in contact with so many brilliant bloggers all over the world and that the best husband (Jeremy Clarkson voice) in the world is at my side.

I am grateful for libraries. My life would be nothing without them.

  • Journal one great experience you had. 

My great experience today was waking up at 2 am and having time to do some FVII playing and reading before shopping, house cleaning and cooking took over.

I sometimes have a problem with a feeling of not having enough time. That stresses me out enormously, and I just lose myself in hurrying along to do the next chore and the next and the next. Today I reminded myself though that I have enough time for everything and alas so it was.

(I got to bed at 6pm because I was so exhausted from four full working days in a row so I had my 8 hours sleep just in case you worry 😉 )

  • Exercise. 

Now that is my bad point. I do not get into the habit of that. Not Mindful Monday, Google Fit nor asking my husband for help have changed any of that. Maybe I am not ready. Maybe I am not meant to do that (well, I wish 😉 )

Today doing the shopping and going to the library ~ both happens in two different towns close to where we live ~ have given me some success. According to Google Fit, I walked for 41 min, and my goal is 33 min per day. Please do not ask where that number comes from :-).

I do that. Pretty much every day since…. I do not know when. Lately, I am experimenting with Binaural Beats/Isochronic tones for different problems in my life. This session has proven extremely successful for stopping me from grinding my teeth at night and this one for dealing with my depression. I listen to these at night when I go to bed.

However, today I tried out one for my meditation session which supposedly heals your aura. Not sure it did any good, but it didn’t do any harm either, and I  was pretty relaxed afterwards. Success in my books!

  • Perform a random act of kindness. 

In this case, I actually was an overachiever today. There has been a man behind me in one of the queues at checkouts today who had just two things to pay for, and he seemed to be in quite a hurry. So I let him get in front of me, and he was very grateful.

Later in the day, I had to take the best husband (Jeremy Clarkson voice) in the world to hospital because he had gotten something small in his eye at work and it got so bad he looked like a proper demon on one side of his face. (He has a scratch on the actual eye but got a salve, and it seems to help).

We had to pay for the parking at the hospital, but there were only the options for half an hour or three hours or more. We were finished after 1 hour which is pretty good, so when we left, I gave our ticket to a lady who just arrived.

Well, that’s my kind and grateful experience for today and I have to admit I feel pretty good and relaxed today.


What about you? Do you do habits of kindness and gratitude? Which are they? And if not: Would you care to join me and try them out yourself?

2 thoughts on “Habits of Kindness and Gratitude ~ 11Aug16

  1. This is very inspiring Bee. I think there is a lot of truth here, being grateful for things does make for a happier life. I always find taking a few moments out of the day to sit in the sun and watch the clouds is a nice was to both relax and reflect a little. After all the clouds keep drifting no matter what happens here on earth, they forever dance above us, joyous and light. And the sun is always warm and bright even when it cannot be seen.

    Thank you for this list, as I said it is very inspiring.

    • You are very welcome but it is “A Productive Life’s” list. I just share my experiences with it. I like the idea of watching the clouds and pondering life. Maybe with a cup of tea :-). I might add that to the list :-). Thanks for stopping by!!!!

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