Today I am going to write about self-love.
Combined two blogging challenges
Over at “Just Fooling Around With Bee” my February blogging challenge “Love Is In Da Blog” has started, and I have decided for this year to combine it with other blogging challenges I love and take part in.
That is why “Mindful Monday ~ Healthier Living” will get some tender love and care in this cold and windy month of February. I have combined both and will post my Monday posts here at “A Spirit of Healing”. The other days posts will be over at “The Bee Writes…” Oh, I feel confusion raising its ugly head. But we’ll get there.
The First #LoIsInDaBl prompt is “Mindful Self-Love”
The first prompt is “Mindful Self-Love” because I believe everything starts with ourselves and loving ourself. If we are not accepting of ourselves it is hard to take care of our bodies. If we do not love ourselves, it is hard to create all the changes that are necessary to create a healthier life.
Walking when my mental health suffers
Even though I had this huge need of walking to get rid of my anxiety when I had my flashback in November, it usually goes the other way when my mental health suffers.
Both anxiety and depression, in my opinion, are closely connected with self-love. If depression hits all your thoughts get a downward very negative spiral and for me it usually ends with something like: You are not good enough! No matter what you try, you fail anyway. That is not something that self-love would make you think.
Being active is difficult when depression hits
And when I am in that spiral it gets so difficult to get up in the morning. After all, what’s the point if I fail in everything? I can have a look at seven years of blogging, my integration into a foreign country and surviving my childhood but nothing will make me believe that I have achieved anything or that yes, I am worth loving. A bleak desperation takes over my thinking and, in turn; my physical activities go bust entirely.
Now I have learned over the years that giving into that thought pattern and stop being active is the worse someone with depression can do. If I give into that impulse I have lost already and the black dog has won. So I get on with my life. I cut down things ~ yes ~ because it is just so exhausting to motivate yourself to do things but I keep some essentials going.
Easy ways of staying active
First of all household chores. They are easy, and you can see a success directly. If you managed to keep your house clean, you can feel some love for yourself. After all, you have achieved a clean house. Writing diary or morning pages. Not exactly a physical activity but journaling gives you the chance to air all those heavy, black and negative thoughts and leave them somewhere. If it is in your private journal you do not scare the people around you so much either. Because that is the least, you want to do: Scare your loved ones.
And since a few years, I try to keep up walking as well. That I am not necessarily very successful with but I’m getting there. Walking seems to have a positive effect on sorting soul things out. It appears to have a positive impact on letting go of past hurt and decisions that were not healthy and with that to let the darkness go.
I so often experience that I become one with the world and at peace with my life, and I can say to myself: I am enough! I have achieved a lot in my life, and it is all well.
And sometimes just sometimes I give my inner child a hug and say to her: I love you!
All these are reasons why I try to integrate walking into my daily life. And I want to say “Thank you!” to Colleen, who has motivated me last week to keep going. I have not been a bad girl this time :-). I have managed to surpass my goal three times last week and nearly succeeded in one day. I had one day with 0 walking time even though I have been active in the house. But Storm Gertrud was raging and even though it was not as bad down in Norfolk as it was in Scottland it was still windy enough to keep me at home. And one day I did one-third of my goal. Never mind. It’s the three days that I surpassed that count.
This week I have to say I am a little challenged again concerning timing. I do a blogging challenge at one blog, and I have started a free online course on mental health and reading at the University of Warwickshire so I have plenty of excuses not to go for a walk. Today I have already skipped but the next storm is approaching, and it is already pretty windy. But *drumroll* I have managed to do some dancing and running in the house. It adds up to 10 minutes but, at least, it’s 10 minutes more than doing nothing! Looks like I love myself more and more :-)!
This post takes both part in Colleen’s “Mindful Monday ~ Healthy Living” and my “Love Is In Da Blog“. Please head over to both posts to find more healthy and loving posts in the comments but also in the posts themselves.
In this sense: May you have a healthy and loving week!